A Happy Medium.
It’s all we’re asking
for people. A happy medium where boys can be fun, yet driven. Where he will
want to spend time with you, yet knows he has to do his homework. This is one
situation where we’d love to have someone lukewarm. Not ice cold boring, not burning up with fun.
A nice, balanced teeter-totter of priorities and enthusiasm.
Pulling the Move
Situation A:
Spinster and Boy are
on hike with a few couples. Boy tries to hold Spinster’s hand the whole way
down. Boy tells Spinster it’s dark, it’s dangerous, needs to hold her hand.
Spinster kindly hints she doesn’t want to hold his hand. It’s a first date.
Kind of weird. In the car Boy asks if he can put his arm around her. Spinster
again kindly, yet more firmly this time, says no. He puts arm around her anyway
and she lifts it off of her. No means no.
Situation B:
Spinster interested
in Fella and after he asks her on a few dates decides to make him dinner. After
dinner she sits on the couch, maybe hoping for a nice snuggle or talk. Fella
sits on OTHER couch. Does not get within 3 feet of Spinster all night.
Wonky priorities
Situation A:
Man is applying for
Law School, taking LSAT, volunteers at Big Brothers Big Sisters, does
triathlons, on an indoor soccer team, working for his uncle on the side as a
sales rep for blah blah blah company, great wit, tall…the perfect catch. Only
one thing missing. His schedule is too busy for a girlfriend.
Situation B:
Guy is going to
school but only part time because he’s president of his frat. Working at
outdoor retailor also part-time because he needs time to “focus on boarding”.
Will hang out with Spinster every single day if she wanted. Would skip work and
school to do so. This sounds wonderful. All except for the part where he isn’t
really shooting for anything in his future.
Trying on only
mediums from here on out,
Gertrude & Charlotte
Oh my goodness... this is the story of my life right now!
ReplyDeleteAMEN. I always think- I can't be an anomaly. Surely there is SOMEONE else who has the right balance of wit and sensitivity, drive and being able to relax, affectionate but not skanky... there has to be someone.
ReplyDeleteI cannot even tell you how many times I've had this conversation. I hate having to be the fun one in a relationship as much as I hate having to be the responsible one.
ReplyDeleteSo funny. Hard to find the perfect balance!
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